In the beginning, pseudo-love is thrilling. Anything and everything you expected and wanted love to be presents itself as pseudo-love.
You are in pseudo-love if:
you see your partner / boyfriend / husband as your knight in shining armor;
If you keep your eyes open, your heart aware, your mind de-cluttered; if you listen to your body and heed its messages, identifying a pseudo-lover is possible.
Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working.